Throughout the history of mankind, we as a world culture have made love out to be mysterious, complex, difficult, and undefinable. It’s the subject of endless poems and literary works. There is an enormous amount of material available out there about love, a lot of it contradictory.
We’ve been given the impression that to define love is near to impossible. Maybe there’s a fear that if we define it, it would somehow be less powerful...less impactful...less exhilarating. Maybe we like the mystery of it. But is it really that complicated? Perhaps the complications surrounding love come from all “stuff” we add on to this powerful emotion. Lets drop all the baggage surrounding relationships and define what it is we are experiencing in the moment of love.
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Basic Components of Love
What do you feel when you love someone? If distilled down to it’s core components, what would those be? Yes, love is an emotion, a feeling, a wanting, and a “being”. We know it feels good, but what specific feelings, wantings, and beings are present when we feel love? Here are the common denominators of love...
Love is Accepting.
|Love is Accepting.|
Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love wanes. Consequently, love is rarely a constant state but fluctuates based on our degree of acceptance.
Love is Appreciating.
|Love is Appreciating.|
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.
( "Oh man, he/she is so smart, attractive, funny, talented, etc." ..and if they are all these wonderful things AND they like me, I must be pretty darm wonderful too!)
Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.
How Do We Express Love?
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We don’t always express our love. Love is a feeling and the expression of that feeling is separate. It’s an action. There’s a practical reason we don’t always express our love for another. It’s an issue of TIME. We only have 24 hours in a day (if you make it up that way). If the expression of love was a core ingredient to love, we would have to be stingy with who we loved, because there simply wouldn’t be enough time to demonstrate our love for everyone! If you see the distinction between the feeling and the expression, you can then love endless numbers of people.
LOVE notes by Great mind!
|LOVE notes by Great mind!|
Do you fancy the idea of leaving love notes for your heart-beat? What a pleasant surprise she will encounter on finding your note! Why not fold small pieces of paper and make cards? Then you might write lines befitting the situation. You may even include teasers. But, please do ensure to complete the sentences inside the card with heart-felt emotions. Be inspired to inspire your loved one with your love note. So, be proactive and a bit creative. It will help you in the long-run by creating an ever-lasting bond between you and that someone special!
Are you in short of words to express yourself? There are a plethora of love notes which can facilitate you to express your feeling or rather yourself in case you are lost for words. A few of you may have heard or read these notes earlier- but have you ever thought of incorporating these notes in your real life. I mean- did you ever contemplate how much your loved one will be moved if you present him or her with any of those? Read on and decide which will suit the temperament of your ‘sweetie-pie’ the most.
Sometimes we are in the situation in where we have to write short love poems on love in cards or gift tags or some love memento for our dear one but we find it difficult to choose the fitting poem for that situation. So having a treasure of love notes with you will help. You will never fail to win the heart of that special person with a love notes written on a card, or a gift tag, or an SMS (short messaging services) which are so much in vogue in the current age.
Array of Famous Love Notes:
|Array of Famous Love Notes|
Whisper softly these romantic lines to your man or lady and see the change in his or her facial expression. Share these with not only your loves one, but also all those who you care for. They may also use these when in need- and bless you for aiding them with this resource.
Shakespeare- Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds.
Winston Churchill- We shape our buildings and they shape us.
Benjamin Franklin- He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.
Helen Keller- The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart."
Ingrid Bergman- A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.
Samuel Taylor Coleridge- Sympathy constitutes friendship; but in love there is a sort of antipathy, or opposing passion. Each strives to be the other, and both together make up one whole.
Stephen Covey- Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.
Ralph Waldo Emmerson- Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Samuel Johnson- Some desire is necessary to keep life in motion
Edmund Burke- Our patience will achieve more than our force. - Edmund Burke
W. Somerset Maugham- We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person.
Thomas Moore- Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames.
Abraham Crowley- A mighty pain to love it is, and 'tis a pain that pain to miss; but of all the pains, the greatest pain is to love, but love in vain.
Saint-Exupery- Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.
La Rochefoucauld- True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen.
Christopher Marlowe- Who ever loved that loved not at first sight?
Houssaye- Tell me whom you love and I will tell you who you are.
La Bruyere- We perceive when love begins and when it declines by our embarrassment when alone together."
St. Augustine- Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
Les Miserables- To love another person is to see the face of God.
Alexander Smith- Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.
La Rochefoucauld- When we are in love we often doubt that which we most believe.
Stendhal- A very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love.
Thoreau- There is no remedy for love but to love more.
Diogenes- Blushing is the color of virtue.
Leo F. Buscaglia- Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time... It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other.
Dr. Karl Menninger- Love cures people - both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.
William M. Thackeray- To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.
Soren Kierkegaard- Don't forget to love yourself.
Alicia Barnhart- True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a life-time but lust just pushes away.
Benjamin Franklin- If you would be loved, love and be lovable.
Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi- Where there is love there is life.
William Gladstone- We look forward to the time when the power to love of will replace the love of power. Then will our world know the blessings of peace.
Victor Hugo - The supreme happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved.
Lao Tzu- To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.
François de La Rouchefoucauld - Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and blows up the bonfire.
Michael Leunig- Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that.
Blaise Pascal- "The heart has reasons that reason cannot know."
William M. Thackeray- To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.
Agnes Repplier- We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh"
Thomas Mann- “This was love at first sight, love everlasting: a feeling unknown, unhoped for, unexpected--in so far as it could be a matter of conscious awareness; it took entire possession of him, and he understood, with joyous amazement, that this was for life.
George Jean Nathan- A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.
Friedrich Nietzsche- There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
Blaise Pascal- We conceal it from ourselves in vain- we must always love something. In those matters seemingly removed from love, the feeling is secretly to be found, and man cannot possibly live for a moment without it.
Alexander Pope- Love, free as air at sight of human ties, Spreads his light wings, and in a moment flies.
Bertrand Russell- Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness which afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives.
William Shakespeare- Love is a spirit of all compact of fire.
Love Note in or on a Bottle:
The gift along-with the love note may help to solve any problem in your love life. The invaluable love note may be inscribed on a bottle. You may even put your note inside the specially created bottle. Just pour your heart in the note in the bottle. You may place this bottle (say “love bottle”) and ship it to the one for whom it is intended.
Save your Time and Effort:
You (or anybody else) might be in the crunch for time in this speed-age. Writing a love letter may seem over-rated or out-dated. Today, we use cell-phones, e-mails, and social sites. So, it is a good idea to make use of the modern technology and sent a love note from the collection of those written by the famous and renowned personalities. Why not replace a lengthy romantic love letter with a touchy love note? But be careful to select the love note as per the situation. If you are in the threshold of a new relation and use a note apt for lover of years- you may land in a mess. So, just make sure that you use your brain, and heart along-with your effort of using the right note at the right place and time.
You may use famous love notes to remove any negative coercion in your relation (if the situation so arises). No relation is always in sunshine- so keep a stock of these precious lines with you. You may even use these lines to invoke romance in the heart of your chosen one (when you so desire). This is a best procedure to make your love lead your life live. Ah! Well! Gift some chocolates also to accelerate the process of amour.
Surely, your love-interest will be elated that you give him or her so much (exclusive) importance- by taking out time and thoughts. You need not be a master of love notes to send one. You just need to love truly. Can you?
Love expressed is when you give your attention, your time, your focus to someone. Webster defines attention as “the giving of one’s mind to something." There are many ways in which we give our attention to another. We use our five senses. Our ears to listen. Being completely present with the one who is speaking. Our eyes, watching another, undivided attention. Tasting/smelling? (I’ll let you figure that one out). Touching, giving a hug, holding a hand, a caress, or sexual expression. How you express your love depends on the type of relationship.