7. Attraction formula: Find your own happiness
Fanelli says that ultimately, attraction comes down to the fact that interesting people are interesting to be with.
“Rather than spending your time trying to lure him in, remember that people who are comfortable with themselves are interesting because they’re doing things that make them happy,” he says, “and that’s very attractive.”
When you’re doing something that ‘turns you on’ (whether it’s playing music, or playing sports), “that is a turn on to other people,” Fanelli says.
Before you worry about attracting him, make sure you find yourself attractive. “Be yourself, and do things that make you happy,” Fanelli says.
Dr. Joe Fanelli, Syracuse University